Everything in our life changes. Whether it is something good or considered unfavorable, things change. Sometimes this change is more like a growth, or expansion, of what is already there. Other times, it is a complete pivot of what previously was. But, just as everything that we deal with on a daily basis changes, or updates (such as computers, phones, social media and webpage designs, apps, etc.), we too may find it beneficial to update our thinking.

The vast majority of people have not changed, or updated their manner of thinking in forever. What's the problem with that? There is no problem, other than the fact that if it has not served them positively, it has served them negatively. Deep rooted self beliefs, our view on how the world works, why people act as they do, why we can never seem to achieve what we truly want - these are all things that whether we realize it or not, have most likely been with us since we were kids. Even if you were fortunate to have encouraging parents that constantly told you, “You can be whatever you want to be when you grow up”, yet they themselves were struggling with two or three jobs to make ends meet, what subconsciously stuck with you is the struggling to make ends meet part.

Our parents, our teachers, our friends, and every last passerby that has ever given us advice, more than likely gave it to us with the purest intentions. If our parents told us that we are great at painting, but that we should really strive to be a lawyer to be financially well off, I'm fairly certain they said this because they cared about our well being. But, what if you had no desire to be a lawyer? What if you didn't want "in" on the family business? See, at some point during our transition into adulthood, we question the path we are on. A lot of times there is this thing inside of us letting us know we really don't want to pursue whatever type of career, but then we hush it with the self reminder that "No, I have to do this. This is what I'm supposed to do."

Without trying to sound dramatic, it really seems like people operate on a drone mode. We very seldomly think for ourselves, and let all these past beliefs dictate our every day move. So how do we "update" this, if it isn't serving us the way we would like it to? Your first step, as with all things, is to decide what you want. What is it you are going for? Once you have the answer to this, and if you see that the way you think (which in turn is causing you to take the types of actions you take) is not leading you to this thing you want, then that is a clear sign you need to update your thinking.

Whether you are 10 years old, or 55 years old - you can change the way you think.  It's the one true power we have as humans.  The main reason we think the current thoughts we do , is because we have been conditioned this way for however many years we have been alive.  This conditioning has occurred through every last thing we have seen, heard, and felt (externally and emotionally).  So, knowing this obvious yet dismissed information, we now know what we need to do in order to change our thinking, or rather, update our thoughts.

If you were taught that you have to struggle to earn a living, yet that same person never made it to financial freedom - is it serving your thought process about money positively?  If you seem to ALWAYS end up with the same type of relationship that always ends badly - is it time to stop blaming the pool of bad fish, and start analyzing ourselves a little deeper to see WHY we keep allowing this?  If you already have a negative attitude towards people in general, which leaves you angry consistently - is reinforcing your thought process with angry music, bad news, etc. helping to make life better for you?

It's all due to the way we think about money, relationships, and especially - ourselves.

Take the time to really think about all the thoughts, decisions, actions, and things in your life that are not serving you positively right now.  Try thinking the opposite way.  I challenge you to smile and say hello randomly, instead of walking around upset at life.  I challenge you to realize that you are worth a better relationship than a drama filled one.  I challenge you to listen to, or read, good and positive/productive things in your news feed for a week.

Little by little, you can adjust your thinking by slight degrees, and still notice huge improvements in your life.  You are not only worth it, but you also finally deserve to be the happiest you can possibly be!  Start working on it now - I dare you! :)