Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Your Biggest Problem

...is you.

Not necessarily the kindest words, but they aren't meant to be.  Nor are they meant to be mean, or ill intended.  But, this statement can be an amazing breakthrough for most people. 

It isn't meant to tear yourself up with blame, but rather for you to claim ownership of your circumstances.  It's meant for you to at least even ponder the possibility that you, as an individual, are responsible for whatever great, or horrible, life you are having.

Please note the keyword "having", and that the word "given" was not used.  We can't choose the family we were born into, or the environment we were born into, or even the type of mental and physical circumstances we came into this life with.  But, if you are of age enough to read and comprehend the subject matter of these words, then you are also capable of self evaluation.

We might be a teenager living with our overbearing parents.  We might have a physical handicap.  We might have inherited an insane amount of debt.  These things, yes, can't be immediately changed.  But, your perspective on them can. 

Continuously realizing the obvious negative effects does nothing but unmotivate you.  It keeps you in a state of frustration, hopelessness, and a load of other emotions that don't actually help to get you OUT of your situation.

Acknowledge the fact that you aren't happy with your circumstance for this and that reason, but from that point on start realizing that it is up to you to get out of it. 

You had nothing to do with being born deaf, but you do have everything to do with your relationships being crappy three times in a row.  You had nothing to do with being born into a poverty stricken family, but you do have the ability to make it better.

The minute we are able to make decisions for ourselves, and the choices that impact our every day lives, is the minute that we as individuals become solely responsible for how our life will continue on.  Learn from what has not worked - do different, not more of the same thing.  Everyone has a different situation, but I can guarantee that if you do some research, you will be able to come up with plenty of examples of other people who rose above it all, and now have amazing lives.

Instead of drowning in dread, start swimming towards a better outlook.  Match, and back it up with persistent action.  You can change whatever undesirable situation you find yourself in.  It will take work, but if you really want something better bad enough, it won't feel like work at all.  On the contrary, the more moves you make in the direction you want to head in, the further the feeling of exhilaration will expand because you will begin to realize that you CAN do this. 

If you are done with this and that, then accept that YOU are responsible to turn it around, change it, leave it, or get it.  There is nothing like realizing that the whole entire time all you needed to make things better for yourself, or you and your family, was you.

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