Thursday, September 8, 2016

How Committed Are You?

Commitment. The word a lot of boys and girls fear.  I say boys and girls, because obviously a certain level of immaturity exists if you cannot commit to the following things: your word, your work ethic, your relationship, your goals, and your well being. I've been there, and many men and women I know were there once as well.

It's a continuous process understanding true commitment, because you aren't ever really done doing it.  Every new day, is another day we have to stay on course with the things I mentioned above. Though it may sound exhausting, it isn't a burden if the things you are committed to are things you really want.

I've said it before, and I will most likely always say it: we get what we tolerate. We always have what we're okay with, at the most rooted subconscious level. We are committed to our significant other, but their behavior is volatile and psychologically unhealthy for us. So why do we stay?

We tell ourselves things like "he will change", or, "she's had a rough life, it's not her fault", and "I'd rather be with him instead of being alone." But is any of that honestly reason to tolerate what doesn't provide you a fruitful and healthy relationship? Throw in the all too common go to phrase "I only attract crazies", and what you really start to see is the real pill that no one wants to swallow: we tolerate these things.

WE are more okay with going through the nonsense over and over instead of being alone.  We are more okay with having a hot, wild, and good looking bad boy/girl with a monstrous and manipulative heart than waiting for a person that actually brings healthy value to our lives. We are more okay with the way something tastes and indulging in it, than controling how we eat to have our insides as healthy as possible. We are more okay with sticking our kids in front of the tv/tablets/phones alone, than actually spending real connecting time with them, and then wonder why they don't talk to us.

Even when it comes to money, we are more okay with living check to check than putting in the serious effort in figuring out how not to live like that anymore.

I'm not a mullti-millionaire yet, I don't have 8 pack abs yet, my kids aren't fully grown yet for me to see the results of how we've raised them, and though Liz and I have just hit our 10 year anniversary - which is an awesome milestone - even I know it's  small on the grand scale when you consider this is my partner for life and we still have decades to go. But, I'm committed to accomplishing these things.

Of course some are easier than others, and of course I slack more in others, but that comes down to my commitment level.  The stronger your commitment, the more ideas come to you on how to keep moving forward in that commitment.

There's a reason why and how I easily come up with ideas to surprise my wife and kids more than I control my portion intake at meals or workout enough. My commitment is super high on the family end, and I'm more okay with carrying the love handles. If I want to lose the little love handles, I need to raise my commitment level.

But, here is the part that I think so many people miss: It's true, Everything has a price, but the price you pay to have everything is commitment. What that means is, if I raise my commitment to lose my love handles, that doesn't mean I sacrifice ANY of my commitment to my family. I can be committed to both equally. I'd have to get creative with how I don't sacrifice my family time in order to get in workout time. Maybe we all start working out together. Maybe we spend more time playing outdoor activities at the park. Maybe I use my 6 year old as a weight (I've done it before and it totally works - plus she gets a kick out of it). The ideas are literally endless.

If we're committed to our goals, to replacing the bad things we tolerate with the good ones we want, we will eventually have them. Your commitment level dictates the ideas you start to have, which then dictates the  amount of action you take, which then dictates the results in your life. That's it. That's the magic sauce.

If we feel like we are failing in any part of our life, it's only because we haven't raised our commitment high enough to changing something about ourselves and/or habits. If you are 100% happy with your life, then this definitely wasn't for you, so share it with a friend you think could benefit.

But, if you are not 100% happy, start thinking about what you've been tolerating for too long, and commit to changing it. Not only will you be overjoyed with the results you get, but the amount of confidence that comes along with the progress you steadily make is MASSIVE and worth it!

Lover of Family, Life, and Possibility. Creative Soul. "Stop Thinking You Can't, and Start Knowing You Can." Reach out to me, and let me know how I can help!


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